The Ins and Outs of Dating Younger Women After Divorce

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After going through a difficult divorce, I found that I was now free to pursue any type of relationship that I desired.  Younger women have always been very fascinating to me, and I thought that now would be as good as a time as any to explore this new and intriguing avenue.

I quickly found that there are both pros and cons to dating younger women.

Pros of dating younger women

Obviously, there are many advantages to dating much younger women.

Younger women are simply more attractive

When it come to pure beauty, younger is almost always better.  You will be able to sense the feelings of envy from other men when you walk into a restaurant or theater with a much younger woman on your arm.

Not only are these women striking, they will make you feel even more handsome and virile than ever, just what you need after a trying divorce.

Dating a younger woman can make you more desirable

Dating such individuals will give you a much higher status among your friends.  That “you still have it” will be a main topic of conversation between you and your buddies for much of your dating days. Many will try to emulate you and find attractive companions of their own.

Younger girls have stamina and energy

Younger females have much more energy and stamina that can make foreplay and sex last forever. Very rarely will they say that they “have a headache” or that they are “too tired” for a frisky romp in bed. Actually, you are the one who is more likely to speak these words and phrases. If you can keep up with them and their boundless energy, more power to you.

Self-doubt can be erased with the validation that a young woman brings

A younger woman can make you realize that you still are young enough to go after your dreams and aspiration. They may motivate you to try harder and dig deeper to gain the drive and passion that you once possessed. Renewed vigor and a new perspective may help you on your road to success.

Cons of dating younger women

You may not think so at this point, but there are also some serious downsides to dating younger women after a divorce. For some, the novelty wears off after a few dates, and you may find yourself longing for a more mature relationship.

A wide age gap can mean few common interests

Face it, a younger woman would have vastly different hobbies and pastimes than you would. They may love to stay out dancing all night, while your idea of a good time might be staying home with a good bottle of scotch and some old-time music.

You may be much more serious about work and your career, while younger people feel that they will have time later in their lives to focus on this. After a time, this lack of commonality may become more and more apparent.

Dating a younger women could highlight your physical limitations

Yes, she may be limber and energetic, but what about you? Can you keep up with all of those late nights and wild partying? You may find yourself asleep in a corner if she is around other younger individuals at an all-night event. Sex may also be an issue. While she is up for two or three times a night, you have all you can do to maintain yourself for one round.

You likely have completely different goals

You may be striving to be president of your company while your new companion wants nothing more than to get a job at Starbucks. Different age groups have different aspirations, and sometimes these do not mesh well in a relationship. Often it is more comfortable to date someone who is at your own career level, so you have more to discuss and more common topics and issues to bounce ideas around.

A wide age gap could cause friction among family members

If you have grown children, or even small children, this may become a sore point in your relationships with them. This is especially true if your new love interest is close to the same age as your older youngsters. It may be uncomfortable for them to see you with your new companion and can put a major strain on your family relationships.


As you can see, there are two sides to this issue. You will have to decide for yourself what exactly you are seeking in a desirable woman. What it all boils down to is what you want from a relationship. Do you want a young firm body that makes you feel virile and young? Or do you wish to be involved with someone closer to your age who can relate to you and your interests? It is all up to you, so give it some serious thought before deciding who your next lady love is going to be.

About the Author Brad Pinch

Brad is a divorced father of two who is navigating the brave new world of dating after divorce. A software developer by trade, he experiments with the latest dating applications and tools so that you don’t have to. Brad writes online dating reviews along with other actionable content for men to improve their quality of life after divorce.

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